Remembering John
John Robert Roby passed away Monday, November 14th, 2011. He was at home in his bed. John graduated from Jenks High School in May 2011, and was studying at TCC.
A loving son, a loyal friend, and a kind and caring brother, John was always happy when helping others – caring for children, animals, and others in need. He hoped to one day settle in a small town, where he could help both people and animals the rest of his life.
DONATIONS
In lieu of flowers, John’s family hopes that his friends and loved ones will instead make a donation to Therapetics. This organization helps train service dogs for Oklahomans. John had always wanted to find a way to help both people and animals, and he had intended to begin volunteering with Therapetics soon.
Please make donations using this link, and list his name under the “Purpose” field at the top of the donation page. Thank you for your help in supporting a cause so close to his heart.
SERVICES
Public Funeral with Reception:
(CORRECTION) Friday, November 18th, 2:00-4:00pm
Southwood Colonial Chapel
Fitzgerald Funeral Home on 91st between Harvard and Yal
3612 E 91st St
Tulsa OK 74137
918-291-3500
http://southwoodcolonialchapel.com
FINAL THOUGHTS
Thank you to everyone who has expressed their warm thoughts and memories. John cared deeply for all of his friends, and would have wanted this to serve as a lesson for them, and others. The following is quoted from one of John’s recent school papers:
“You should look for friends and family to help you, and not use drugs to get over something. Seeing the effects that drugs have, not only on you but on the family and friends that care about you… It’s stupid…”
Please do not let John’s passing be in vain. You have your whole life ahead of you. And while it may feel like you have to experience it all, and experience it now, good decisions will ensure you have plenty of time. John would have wanted this for you.
“People, please spend as much time as you can with those you love, or you won’t know how much you love them till they’re gone.”
- John’s Senior English paper
You were more than friend to my daughter Kiran . . .you were her loving brother. I’m so blessed to have had you in her life.
I’ll continue lifting your loving family up in prayer . . .that His love and mercy will envelop them and give comfort in this dark hour.
My family met John when he was only 6 years old. From then on he was always like another one of our kids to my wife Michele and I. But to my son Jackson and especially my daughter Paige he was much more. Over the years John had spent many days and even nights at our home. John was the only boy I ever allowed to spend the night at our house. Although Paige and John did not go to the same school they became best friends. They spent countless hours together over the years. Paige had just recently told us that John made her feel better and understood her better than anyone. Words can not describe the loss of John to our family. To Jim and Nancy as a parent I just want to say thank you for always allowing John to be a part of our family. John had a caring, loving soul that not all people have. I will always be thankful that my children Paige and Jackson was friends with John. It was an honor to know your son he was one of the special ones on this earth. He will never be forgotten in our family. He will always be in our thoughts and prayers. Jason, Michele, Paige and Jackson
Very beautiful, Lance is very upset and told me he was going to his funeral cause anyone that would take the blame for the window that got broke at Hagars house after his funeral deserved to have him go and say his good byes. You know Lance is the one that shot that window not John, right but John took the blame for Lance, such a good kid we will miss him so much, I know it won’t be as much as you guys will. But we love him and all of you very much, we are praying every day for all of you.
Our family would like to express our sincerest condolences to the entire Roby family. You will remain in our thoughts and prayers. Ashlynn loves the entire Roby family, but had a special connection to John. Know that John will always stay dear to our hearts.
God speed, John…
John,
My heart is aching right now.. I can’t stop thinking back on all of the childhood memories I had with you. You weren’t just my best friend, you were my brother. You and your family have always had a special place in my heart. I know you are smiling down from heaven watching over all of us.
You are so special to me John Roby, no one will ever be able to fill the whole in my heart. It will always belong to you. I was so blessed to be able to grow up with you and your brother. Your family has been so loving and kind to me. My mom and dad will never forget you or the T-REX. You made all of us laugh every time we were around you and to this day we still laugh thinking back on old memories..I will never forget you.
I love you John, always & forever, my parents love you, I know we will see you again someday.
Rest in peace <3
John always knew how to put a smile on my face when we would hang out. I was blessed to have him in my life for the time i did. I knew from the second i met him he was a wonderful guy. To his Mom and Dad you raised a great son that influneced my life. I still see that great smile or hear that laugh of his. Clair this site was amazing and beautiful thank you for making this. John RIP i know that your smiling at us now. YOU will NEVER be FROGOTTEN<3
Nancy, my heart goes out to you. Our families were so close growing up that bad news still hurts today. I am so sorry for your loss. Love and prayers to you and your family. Jan
From our entire family, who lived next door to John and his family for many years, we express our deep sorrow to the Robys and to John’s friends. I know all of us will support John and his family with our prayers. We have many memories of John, his brother, sister and Jim and Nancy. We wish God’s blessing, consolation and peace on all of you.
Nancy,
Beth and I are so so sad to hear of your loss. It is hard to understand the reasons behind some of the changes in our lives.
Please know our love and prayers are with you and your family.
Stephanie
Jim and Nancy,
I can’t begin to explain the emptiness and aching that I feel in hearing about John. I loved that kid just like my own. My heart goes out to you, Claire and Brad and your loss. I want thank you for giving our family the opportunity to be a part of yours. The years that we spent in the neighborhood were wonderful and memorable. I just can’t stop remembering the endless nights that I would call your house looking for Laramie only to find him either jumping on the trampoline with John or Brad or them riding their bikes through the neighborhood. Summertime would find them swimming at the pool or football practices. But most of all, I chuckled at how they all aggravated Claire and Tory. What fond memories we have of John. As the boys got older they went their separate ways but still remained close buddies and I am very grateful for that. John was an exceptional kid and his loss will always remain with me. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are lifted to each and every one of you daily.
To John,
I will always remember you coming to rescue us when a big fat possum like rat was in our garage and you came over to ‘man handle’ it for me. (You were maybe 11 yrs old) You gathered it in a box and took it away so that it wouldn’t bother us anymore. We have laughed about that for years. I will miss you – you little stinker but just know that I loved you very much. Watch over us all.
Marlisa (Camerer) Tellier
John was always a pleasure to have around. He always cheered us up by a joke or something. I wish I would have kept better contact with him after her graduated. He was a dear friend. His family is in my prayers. It’s so sad to know he’s gone, but he’s in his paradise now. Gone but not forgotten. Fly high John. You are missed dearly.
Tim expressed our sadness for the loss of your John. I wanted to share a sweet memory of John. I was working on a sculpture in my garage one summer. It was to be a gift for my sister. John was a high schooler and naturally reserved but always friendly. He wandered into our garage and was curious about my creation. He would stop several times to see how it was coming along. I welcomed his “critique” and we had some laughs. He was a nice boy. I always hoped he would find his own way which may even be art! I think he had a gentle soul. I found the Roby’s phone number the other day and reminisced our old driveway chats. I am sure lots of Oklahoma friends will comfort you and when I am back home ( that’s right! ) I hope Tim and I can stop by to visit again. God bless you always . Connie
I am deeply saddened at John’s passing. As his seventh grade language arts teacher at Jenks Middle School, I remember John as a happy and enthusiastic boy who enjoyed being with his friends and family. John was a sweetheart. To the entire Roby family, I wish you peace, love, and comfort during this difficult time.
John Was A Really Nice Guy, He Always Cracked Jokes In Class And Was The Best Classmate Ever.! Its Sad To See Him Go I Just Wish I Could Have Seen Him Before He Passed.! My Thoughts And Prayers Go Out To The Roby Family.! God Bless You All.!
-Fly High John.!
i love you john. ill never forget the 1st time i meet you. i didnt even know you and you still talked to me like weve known eachother forever. you didnt judge me the way i looked or what i did. you accepted me for me and i love you for that. ill never forget just talking to you for hours or your silly laugh. we didnt hang out in a while and i wish i did. ill never forget you john roby
John im very sad that you are gone. i miss you sooo much. Im glad that i got to meet you. you always made 6th hour better in ms.livingoods class. i would always walk in upset and you always made me smile. it was hard going to your funeral and trying not to cry because i promised myself i wouldnt but i did anyway. well i know that your watching on all of us. i bet you everyone up dying laughing. well miss ya bro and fly high
#R.i.p
Nancy and family. I did not know John, except from the stories you told of him, shared of him and his brother. I remember how we laughed when you shared the memories with me. I do know that his passing leaves a very large hole in your family. Words cannot express how much I recognize the loss you are struggling to deal with. I am so sorry that such a young and vital person is gone from your life and your family. I will keep you in my prayers.